Public Speaking
I would be very happy to create bespoke talks and workshops focused on your specific needs and the message you need and your audience to walk away with.
Speaking topic examples include but are not limited to:
Emotional Abuse
Many emotionally abusive behaviours from parent to child have become socially acceptable; because they're so prolific, they're normalised. The baton of trauma is often passed on from generation to generation, until someone decides to change it.
Narcissistic Parents
We've all heard the word narcissist but what exactly is a narcissist? and if you're raised in a narcissistic family, what are the 5 main traits of a narcissistic parent? What are the 3 different categories of narcissistic parent? and what are the 4 roles assigned to the children?
The hidden cost of being “too nice”
Many women were raised with mantras;
"Keep the peace"
"Don't rock the boat"
"If you don't have something nice to say - don't say anything at all"
They were brought up that standing out was bad, and staying small meant safety. The grew up managing other peoples emotions and never learned how to identify their own, let alone their own needs. What they discover is that their "niceness" is actually a trauma response and not a personality trait.
Parentification
There are 3 different types of parentification;
Emotional- Being your parents best friend, confidant, mini therapist
Instrumental- Having responsibilities that are beyond developmentally appropriate - cleaning, cooking, minding your siblings, taking care of bills
Narcissistic - Involves both emotional and instrumental parentification but the narcissistic parent also projects an entire false identity aswell.
Healthy Anger
Young girls, in particular, have been brought up on a recipe of false hoods.
They are taught to fear conflict and suppress their anger.
I hear women regularly say,“that’s just me” they believe the 'people-pleasing
' is woven in to the fibre of their being.
Young girls become so disconnected from who they are, they are starved of
healthy attunement, starved of genuine love and belonging,
and in adulthood they are feeding in all the wrong places.
If you're a people-pleaser - how it is damaging to your children
When you continually please others, you end up betraying yourself and
damage your personal relationships. Your “kind”& “good” behaviour that
rescues your child in the moment, can leave them emotionally crippled,
entitled and cam have many negative consequences for them in the long run.
How to break the cycle of generational trauma
The expectation of what a “good mother” is often to “be all to everyone,
be perfect”, which is both unattainable and damaging because you are
striving for a reality that doesn’t exist. Becoming aware the harmful
emotional behaviour, that was normalised in your childhood,
is the first step in breaking the cycle.
If you have an idea of what you’d like me to communicate to your
audience, contact me below to find out how I can enhance and support
your event.